This quote from your article perfectly describes my current situation:

"To me, however, it made perfect sense because I knew in my heart that Sister Dagger was not only my best friend but my soul mate; and that being with her in an extended family was much better than not being with her at all."

Problem: Day to day living

Question: How do you keep from losing your mind over the constant day-to-day reminders that they are a 'legitimate' couple (with a history that far predates you) & are always able to publicly show their mutual affection while you have to fade into obscurity in public situations? How in the world do you bounce back from that again & again?

(I love my man but am constantly feeling dragged down by this lifestyle..)

Catherine, in an email dated January 21, 2006