I am sure you get all kinds of e-mail on a regular basis, so I will totally understand if you don't have time to respond to me personally. I just recently found Poly Percolations, and have been reading it every chance I get.
Your situation was so interesting to me, because I have rarely come across healthy, working MFM triads in my short search into this kind of lifestyle. I was checking out the forums as well and there was a post on which you spoke about cheating in your younger relationships (mainly since you didn't know better yet). I could identify with that so deeply, since I have always found it so hard not to fall in love with other people, while at the same time being in love with my original partner. I only recently started putting two and two together and figuring out that perhaps those were early signs that this whole monogamy thing was really for the birds (at least for me).
My husband and I have been beyond happily married for the past 4 years, and we have two young children together. Recently I have started to develop serious feelings for a man I have been seeing (everything out in the open of course) for a month. This is totally uncharted territory for the three of us, and we are just taking our time, talking and talking and talking some more. So far it seems to be heading in a healthy and positive direction. Logistically it still seems impossible to me that we will ever be able to make it work long-term. By reading your articles and learning all I can, it has really shown me that people CAN make it work, and are doing it every day.
I never in my wildest dreams imagined that I would find myself wanting a polyamorous relationship(s). The more that I read and experience and learn, the more and more comfortable I am feeling with this new transition.
I am so very glad that I found the website and I am going to encourage my husband and my 'spice' to read the articles as well. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I don't have very many people in my life that I can share this with (at least at this point) so it is good to know that there is a community out there where I can go to vent, celebrate with, and ask for answers.
Take Care and All The Best,
SG, in an email dated February 8, 2006