Just wanted to let you know that I read your article, Fear and Loathing.

I surely relate to how you feel. I am in a triad relationship, and all three of us are scared to death of the repercussions should friends, family, or anyone else find out we're polyfidelitous. We of course try to take all the precautions we can to insure our relationship arrangement remains a secret. But I, for one, at least, am painfully aware of one of the lessons I learned from watching "Brokeback Mountain:" namely, that no secret, no matter how carefully guarded, is 100% bombproof. I often try to warn my two companions that even though we should try, that we must try, and that we will try ... it's probably still more a question of "when" than "if." Best prepare ourselves for the nuclear fallout ahead of time.

Your article was well-written and I appreciate it. It is always a relief to hear of someone else sharing a struggle of my own, even if we've never met. The polyamorous closet is a lonely one. For being a closet, it sure is a vast, dark, empty place. The lights are few and far between. I thank you for lighting a candle here. It gave me a small lift on a very discouraging day.

With appreciative esteem,
January 2, 2008