Welcome to 2010 yeah I know a bit late.

The Facts of Life

Today's writing for today is not specifically poly in nature; rather, it is human in nature. Many things that are stated here are not exactly new. They bear being written about and discussed though, in that once accepted the results can be life changing. These are not my original ideas but have been brought to my attention by an author known as Lazlo Zalezac (his site is: http://drupal.zalezac.com he can also be found on SOL: http://storiesonline.net/).

My interpretation of the list will follow point by point. The first is a rule for life and the rest are some facts of life:

The Rule of life, there is only one go figure
If it harms none do it, defend the weak from the strong.

Facts of life
Life is not fair.
No one is exempt from death.
Physics rules the universe and biology rules life.
The universe does not care.
The only constant in life is change.
There is always a choice.
Wishing never makes it so.
A person can't exceed their limits.
A person is responsible for their own happiness.
It is impossible to change the character of another.

If it harms none do it, defend the weak from the strong.
This sounds simple until you think about it a bit, especially if you carry it beyond the scope of humanity and apply it to all interactions that a person has. In my interpretation, the second part (defend the weak from the strong) can (and does) on occasion trump the first part. This is not to say that it should be done lightly or without forethought. Hurt and harm are, often times, two very different things. Another thing to consider is that harm can be physical, emotional or spiritual.

Life is not fair.
This does not exempt one from dealing with others in a manner that is less than fair. The fact of the matter is that life is not fair and if you are prone to dwell on that fact you are going down a road of heartache and depression. One of the best ways to deal with this fact is to have your intentional family and friends support you during your down time so that you may support them when they are down. A person can also learn to appreciate when life is not fair in your favor, however small or large it may be.

No one is exempt from death.
Sad but true, you are not exempt from it. Do your best to enjoy and appreciate the life that you have had so far and currently have. While you are at it help others enjoy their lives too. If you are prepared for the inevitable then there is a bit (or a lot) less worry in your life.

Physics rules the universe and biology rules life.
Any endeavor that goes against physics or biology is doomed to have non desirable consequences. Build a building without regard to physics, it falls. Have sex without protection, a pregnancy or disease will happen, it is just a matter of time.

The universe does not care.
Six billion plus people on the planet and millions of other life forms on the same rock, in the same non-descript solar system, in a basic non-descript galaxy among millions of other galaxies. Felling small and insignificant yet? The good news is that you can change the universe for those around you for the better or worse.

The only constant in life is change.
Even when one is dead their body is changing. Instead of having to resist change and fight to keep a status quo, why not use change for the better? Use the fact that change is inevitable to your benefit instead of your loss.

There is always a choice.
It may not seem like it at times, however there is always a choice even if it is to do nothing. Choices have consequences ALWAYS. Do your very best to make the best choice possible with the information that you have and your life will be better than if you try to avoid choices; as that is a choice in and of itself.

Wishing never makes it so.
A waste of time and effort, enough said.

A person can not exceed their limits.
Know your limits. This does not mean that you can not change your current limits. If you know where your limits are then you can work to improve the areas where you are weak. Just because your limits are in one place now does not mean that they can not be changed with a bit of work. By the same thought, if you are planning on exceeding your current limits in the here and now, chances are that you will meet with failure.

A person is responsible for their own happiness.
This is one of the ones that drive me nuts, especially in the media's portrayal of romance and life. If you can not make yourself happy then there is no chance in hell anyone else is going to make you happy. In the long term, depending on another to create your happiness will have consequence either to you or the other person. There is a difference between filling loneliness and being happy.

It is impossible to change the character of another.
If I have said it once I have said it a thousand times - one person can NOT change another. The only person that change someone is that someone. People can only change themselves and that will happen only when they are ready and WANT too. Any other lines of thought equal the frustration of trying to herd cats.

FG

Posted on Polyamorous Percolations 01 Feburary 2010 at 22:15

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